There are many times in life when you feel like you are treated badly, overlooked, shunned, ignored and just straight up insulted. Yet, the world only reflects back what you feel about yourself. If it’s throwing at you something that you don’t feel then you’ll usually miss it. It will go over your head and not affect you.

The path to evolving and healing comes when you can take up the habit of seeing these happenings around you to be reflections. Then, rather than reacting and taking offence or being hurt you can say “Hey, check that out. That person said this to me and I felt low (sad, mad, injured, small, offended …) Therefore there is some element of truth I found in what they said. What was the element I considered to be truth that hurt the most in what they said?

If you look at it more objectively without getting swamped in the emotions, you can then pick out the words, or interpretation which needs a bit of work to remove from your psyche. Once you’ve removed it, you will see similar words or actions happening less because there is no reason to reflect it back at you anymore. You no longer have that belief about yourself in your vibe which is broadcast out to the world so you no longer get the same “ping back”.

Being Not Worthy

Many of the things that hurt us stem from how worthy we feel. There are plenty of self development gurus and experts who will yell at you “You’re a God/Goddess, you’re a super star, you’re special! See it, believe it and your life will change.”

So we go “Oh, ok. I’m a Goddess. Whoo! Yeh! How exciting. No, not really.” We can say a million affirmations, put on a nice dress, push out our chest and strut about but it really just feels like we are kidding ourselves. Like playing fancy dress.

If you find this is the case, how about simply being as worthy as everyone else?

Learning to be Worthy Again

Pinpoint the thing you have stuck in your psyche and reason with yourself in a new way. Let’s look at an example.

One I see which is very common amongst those I help is whether or not they are worthy of love or admiration.  How can we see this differently? Try whichever affirmations are most useful to you or make you’re own ones up in a similar fashion.

There are others who are older than me and younger than me who are deeply loved by their partner. I am just as worthy as them.

There are others who are thinner or fatter than me who are deeply loved by a partner. I am just as worthy as them.

There are others who are poorer or richer than me who are deeply loved by a partner. I am just as worthy as them.

There are others who are brighter or dumber than me who are deeply loved by a partner. I am just as worthy as them.

There are others who are more talented or less talented than me who are deeply loved by their partner. I am just as worthy as them.

There are others who are more successful or less successful than me who are deeply loved by their partner. I am just as worthy as them.

There are others who are more extrovert or more shy than me who are deeply loved by a partner. I am just as worthy as them.

I am just as worthy as that person and that person and that person.

You see? You can pick whatever the main criticism is that you have of yourself and prove there is no evidence to suggest you are less worthy than anyone else.

As an exercise, just like the Beautiful exercise we’ve done before, popping this thought into your mind on a frequent basis, even for a week, can dramatically turn your mindset around. You don’t have to be a super star or a God/Goddess. Just accepting that you are as worthy as the next is enough to knock out the resistance and start to bring you a different, more positive sort of reflection from the world that you can be, do or have whatever you are reaching for.

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