Fascinating session this week (below) with mentor Mercredan following through on a number of subjects, some we’ve been discussing a long time and are coming clearer; others in response to info I’ve collected from other sources.
The book mentioned below I’ve learnt much about why we do the naughty and nasty things we do, how to move on from that. As usual the directions are simple but putting it into action takes considerable discipline to break our lifetime habit.
We also look at sadness. It feels fine to be sad when you have good reason but in this case there was sadness without much reason. Rather than painting your happy face over the top and moving on, it’s definitely worth setting some time aside in your day to address it – your body will thank you for it!
Enjoy,
Annabelle
Mercredan session on Guilt, Sadness and Healing Someone After Their Death
Channelled by Francis Evans
Interviewed by Annabelle Drumm
22 February 2016
Topics: guilt and punishment habits, sin, separation and continuing conflict; after suicide or death, healing sadness
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M: Good morning and once again it is my privilege and pleasure to come and spend these few moments of your time. Shall we begin by commenting that everything has a timing. A proper timing and as such, the background that One finds Oneself in is affected and has ……. (long pause) I am looking for the right word. “fluent” but I don’t think that is the right term. But it has an affect on One’s understanding and of course what One draws into One’s life stream. So shall we begin a conversation?
A: Mm. So you’re saying the background is not quite fluent but the background is affected by my understanding?
M: Shall we say, always One is playing out on a creative background. That is, One sees life within the framework One is in. So when One is influenced, it is always against, and of course affects, the background.
A: Right.
M: So you have a question?
Guilt and Punishment habit
A: Yes. (laughs) That feels so very very general, I can’t quite picture what the example is there. I do have a question based on the book that I have been reading recently (The book is The Disappearance of the Universe: Straight Talk about Illusions, Past Lives, Religion, Sex, Politics, and the Miracles of Forgiveness
M: Mm. Shall we say that when One tries to ignore the reality, when One tries to overlay an idea on top of something that already exists, of course the old idea will assert itself with extra potency.
A: (laughs) Yes.
M: First of all, let us look at the idea of guilt. Guilt is tied with regret as if there is an action that One has done deliberately to affect someone or something else. So it appears as if One can be guilty for something One is not aware of. If that were the case, and it certainly is not, if it were the case, then everybody would be guilty of their lack of awareness and therefore everyone would be completely punishable. Do you understand? Guilt comes with punishment and that is built into your natures. However, once One realises that One is only guilty when you go against what you already know is to be true, then One is innocent until One wakes up. How you can be guilty of something if you are not aware of it at all? One has to first of all be aware. History is always better dealt with in hindsight. How many people would do anything the same with the hindsight that they have learned by doing it in the first place?
A: Right. Though there are times when we deliberately do things to harm others.
M: Is that simply the truth or is it that you have justification and so forth? Let us take an example then. In your affirmation
Even though I believe I should have known better, I am learning my lessons and are free from the past.
A: Right. So, forgiveness.
M: You understand, of course. You are saying “Even though I did this or I did that, even though all that is true and even though from my new position I feel the guilt, I forgive myself because at the time I was innocent.”
A: I see. So this way we acknowledge the guilt without fighting against it.
M: Of course. You cannot simply say “I wasn’t guilty” because you are saying “I am guilty”
Sin, separation and continuing conflict
M: …and we have already talked a lot about Sin. From our perspective here, Sin is in the mind of separation. Sin arises when you step out of your position, that is the old, and look on Oneself as a separate entity. The whole is always the whole. The whole is always working in reflections. Do you understand? So whatever One does to another is not separate from their desire to experience that effect.
A: Right. So if I punched someone in the face, then the person that I was attracted to punching has somehow sought the experience?
M: Of course.
A: But that’s not really an excuse, surely, for me to go “It’s ok for me to punch that one so I’ll go punch another one.”
M: You understand, if you were to do that, then you would draw to you others who would want to punch yourself. So you would always end up always in physical conflict and you would keep doing this until you realise that you have an anger problem.
A: (laughs)
M: And then you would start to realise that it wasn’t particularly good even if you were always the winner. You are carrying something that every fight made worse within you. So it isn’t as clear cut as you think that it simply gives you the right to keep promoting this. Then of course, eventually you will slow down (eg. get older) and there is always another person ready to seek you out and give you the hiding you deserve because they want to take on your Mana. You understand what I mean…
A: But that won’t always be the case, will it? If we’re already on the fold back now of making the world more peaceful, that people will not always take on the Mana.
M: Of course, that is what they think. They think, “If I can find the person who is the biggest bully and I can beat them up then I can boast that I have done that. Then I am a big person.” and so on it goes.
A: But does it continue? So now they are boasting and then the next person will come and try and beat them up as well?
M: Look at your countries. Look at your planet. Always in conflict because others want to push someone around and it flows from the very biggest to the very smallest.
A: Yes, the pecking order.
M: Of course. How many at the highest level are promoting peace?
A: None
M: Well there are, of course. As we have mentioned, your present Pope is attempting to promote values that provide the nature of those with the most helping those with the least. That means also in terms of powers. You understand, unless someone takes responsibility for the Whole, then the Whole is designed for failure.
A: But then, how can one take responsibility for the Whole? Surely it must be a collective that all take responsibility at once?
M: When there is a great Speaker, a leader who leads towards peace, then of course, those beneath shift their attitudes and so forth. If you want someone to build up a greater nature where only the fighters get to the top then, you will of course create even more conflict and eventually total destruction of your planet. That is always on the cards and of course, who is it who allows such Ones to get to the top? Those that want to hang on to the shirt tails and benefit by it. Playground bullies often have a team behind them egging them on and allowing them to bully others.
A: So this great Speaker, I’m sure there are people out there who have the potential to be that great Speaker, I’m assuming they wouldn’t come through politics because that’s too limiting and controlled.
M: And is that the case? You understand, they can come through any vibration at all. They are not limited by ideas of limitations. They will look for that method that has the greatest impact.
A: Music is good that way.
M: Of course and look at how much has been promoted by musicians that get to such an influential position.
A: Mm. So let’s bring it back to the individual again. You have shown me how to accept the guilt…
M: Shall we say, time to bury the guilt! Time to realise the guilt is in the past. What are you going to do about it? One could look at this guilt and decide whether reparation is in order and if it is in order then you will take that step. If asking for forgiveness is in order, saying One is sorry and apologising, then take that step.
A: Yes, though even with my sibling, who is the first person I think of when you speak of that, I wonder if anything would change if I said sorry. (and I realise now that I did say sorry before yet, I got no reply.)
M: You understand, how can it be any worse?
A: Yes, but how many times do you need to say sorry in order to move on?
M: Of course you are saying sorry once and moving on. It doesn’t require the other person to accept that. You have done your part. It is you that have taken action. So often people have it in their head, their mind, to take that action and even in their hearts they desire to take that action, but in the end, do they take it by action? It is the action you take that will create the gravitational waves.
A: Yes indeed! OK
M: That is why I said the last time that you have to stamp your foot.
A: Yes.
M: That is, taking action, putting the “soul” to the ground.
A: Yes ok, thank you for the reminder. May I move on to another one?
M: Of course.
After a suicide or death
A: It feels rather small but you never know where the conversation will lead. (touché!!) Today I have felt little snippets of sadness come up which I cannot identify. I am wondering if it has something to do with the lady I knew who had recently taken her life a couple of days ago or if it is something else altogether. Is there some way I can find what that is so I may address it?
M: Sadness is not something to avoid. Sadness is something to experience because when you allow yourself the full sadness, what it does is release to you what is behind it. Not only that, but, it affects the chemistry of your body and allows you to take appropriate action that will resolve some of it. I want to say it is not a single event, it is not a single thing but One is starting to consider letting go. (I immediately knew he was talking about my parents who are both ill presently.) Letting go of the connections that you have felt you could rely upon. So the one that moved on was only reminding you that there are others that are no longer so interested in the physical reality. Also you are starting to see the signals that your own children are beginning their own independence…
A: Yes indeed.
M: … and then you will feel like you are left behind. That you are feeling that there is not really anything for you. Do you understand what I mean?
A: Yes I do indeed.
M: So One is fighting experiencing that rather than realising every death is the beginning of a new movement and when someone passes the veil they have the enormous ability to shift fears. Whether they choose to do so of course, is in the realms of their own choices but, they are free from the limits that they have felt. I want to say, the one that chose to end it has struggled for considerable time…
A: I know
M: …trying to find a purpose that seemed beyond her grasp.
A: Yes, and I felt even when I knew her some 25 years ago there was this feeling of not being enough and having expectations beyond what anybody could achieve.
M: And underneath then, there was also come physical uncertainty. That is, the body was beginning to show signs and she was not willing to allow that to progress.
A: What sort of signs do you mean?
M: There were beginning signs within the body – a medical condition – that could be brought into being. She was fully aware that whatever choices she made at the time, required more potency, more strength than completing the cycle.
A: So these health issues come about through our way of thinking and being anyway though, right?
M: Of course, of course. The limitation and the struggle that this One has spent the whole life time living with.
A: OK I understand.
M: Do you understand what I mean when I say very death is a suicide with its own framework? The reality is if you take your own life and you are not in the right frame of mind, it can hold disastrous results on the other side. My dear friend’s ——– (someone the Channeller knows) is already preparing with an exit but he does not hold very high ideas for the future. So, he is already beginning to structure a very final exit.
A: Does that result in…
M: A “final exit” and for some significant period of time. However, fortunately for this one, he has been shaken up a little in certainties and when someone is less certain than they used to be it is easier for the friendly “impressions” to break into the darkness. (We might talk of loving spirits, angels or put this type of friendly impression in the image of a buddy or family member already passed who will help draw them out in this situation.)
Shall we hope he perceives that early on and can move forward.
A: Mm, that’s a good thing to focus on.
M: When One thinks of your friend it is always, would you be willing to enter in to the structure that she has created for herself? Shall we call it a very grey zone.
A: Yes, well I did think of that yesterday. I meditated on that for a short while then, as I got on with my day, all of this inner talk started flowing through to me. Constant criticism and sarcasm and all these things I felt she was saying.
M: Of course.
A: Was that connecting with what she was…
M: Of course.
Healing sadness
A: OK. Was there any way I can influence that from here?
M: Of course! One enters in. The point is, if you want to demonstrate your spiritual evolution, One will go down into the darkness and offer your help and support to those trapped within. They will of course, be quite abusive. They will have all sorts of negativity and all sorts of behaviours that are, shall we call them, a little unpleasant. But if One stays best to One’s sense of love, that it is that you are fortunate in your own self not to have found this zone, shall we say, then you remain as a light and such a light is often quite a polished mirror. The mirror then, will not take on the abusive comments and criticisms and so forth but will simply hold forth that it is alright to have and to voice such abuses, really understand how they arose and when they are ready, they can follow you out of…
A: The grey zone
M: … the grey zone. You understand what I mean. You are helping them to lighten up.
A: Ha, yes that is what I wanted to say even when she was 13. “Lighten up.”
M: To lighten up, to have such feelings lifted from the shoulders so she can move forward. So you are demonstrating something and not just that but, once One has succeeded in helping one soul you may expect others to come. (Yikes) Others to be brought to you and you have to learn to manage your own sadness. To manage your own feelings of despair and so on because you do not want to be dragged down, you want to lift up…
A: Yes indeed
M: …and in doing so you gain more than you give.
A: Yes, right. So if you can perhaps give me a technique even to get myself started on these little moments of sadness. You are saying to fully experience them and allow whatever needs to come to bubble up to the surface.
M: Of course and to recognise there are sad things in the world which drag people into the grey zone or as it is more traditionally called “Oblivion”. (Curious – this word is the title of a recent favourite tango song of mine by Piazzolla.) Let us say you are willing to experience this, to transform it. Sadness is allowing the energy of that to pass through. If you are to go in, One meditates, then One will meditate on all the negativity of the world and as you enter into that negativity, One transforms it with love.
A: Right. How amazing it would be to master such a skill.
M: When you allow yourself that these negative things are being released and I am the lucky one because I have enough love for people to allow that to transform.
A: Mm. OK, that’s wonderful. Thank you. I’ll leave my other question for next time, that feels like plenty for me today.
M: Then once again, thank you for your time and your willingness and, shall we put it this way, your questions, your insights always widen the path in Consciousness. (We have spoken of this before where widening the path makes it easier for others to follow.)
A: That’s good to know.
M: Then thank you and good morning.
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At the end of this session I burst into tears thinking of my parents knowing they would soon be leaving. I told them both I love them. Felt much better afterwards.
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