I was thinking this morning about how we start the process of creating a better life and career by first using our imagination. We spread out our thoughts laterally playing “What if?” games, running the scenarios in our mind till we find one that entertains us enough to stick.

If we are day dreaming about ourselves and what we could be, these dreams are a necessary part of the process to expand our horizons and give us something to aspire to – so don’t ever let anyone scoff at you day dreaming as being a waste of time.

The picture that came up for me around this process today was the Elevator.

We might be proud of the fact we’ve worked our way up to the third floor in what we are doing. We can look at the floors below and congratulate ourselves on our progress, then day dream about what life would be like on the 11th floor. What are the perks? What are the added responsibilities? What are the extra burdens and worries? What are the gifts? We weigh it up in our heads and some times the burdens feel too much so we’d rather stay on the 3rd floor, other times the perks outweigh the objections so we continue to see ourselves up there.

We might hang out in the elevator a fair bit as it moves above and below our floor on a frequent basis.

Here’s the thing though.

Time and time again the Elevator will stop at the 11th floor, the doors will open and we have a choice. Are we ready to step out and walk onto the 11th floor?

This is often a turning point for us. We might find ourselves frozen to the spot or even shrinking into the corner.
“I’m not good enough to be there.”
“I would lose all my friends on the 3rd floor.”
“Those new people will know I don’t belong there.”
“I don’t deserve it.”
“I am bound to fail.”

And we stand there talking ourselves out of it until, with great relief, the doors close and we are delivered back to the 3rd floor. Many people I’ve worked with – and myself included – go up and down in the elevator, dreaming of a higher floor, going up then coming back down in the Elevator when what we desired was delivered to us. If it’s a rare moment for the Elevator doors to open exactly where we wanted wemight then kick ourselves for years afterwards about the fact we didn’t step out.

How can we ease this process so we are more likely to accept what is offered?

1) Be Do Have

We can use the BE DO HAVE exercise. Rather than just weighing up the perks versus the burdens, do a really good exploration around who you think you would be if you were working on the 11th floor. What qualities of personality and skill set would you take with you? What needs to be added or taken away?

2) Visualise

Visualisations can be useful in picturing that moment of the Elevator doors opening and actually stepping on to the 11th floor. That covers the accepting of the desire. But it’s still easy to be a scaredy cat hovering by the Elevator before you’ve adequately explored your new floor, waiting until the doors open again, leaping back in, heading back from whence you came saying it was all a bit much for you… a bit like me being in a foreign country wandering around the corridors of a private club and finding myself in the male swimming pool dressing room. Yeah, you should have seen the guy laughing at me skidaddling away after he told me where I was. All a bit much.

3) Exploring the new me

In our exploration of being on the 11th floor, not only do we need to see we are worthy of being there and getting used to the idea of boldly stepping out on to the floor; but we also need to see who we are as we make ourselves at home there. Try imagining finding people to spend time with who are even more fascinating than those on the 3rd floor, picturing our skill set growing, our confidence growing and being accepted by the rest of the community on that level. Think about what you can offer your new companions, what you will be contributing.

By adding more exploration in these areas, we can spot where our fears lie so we can address them, early on and then, once the Elevator opens the doors to our desire we can be bold in stepping out and accepting our moving up in the World.

Taking action

These are mindset exercises and they are not the only thing that will move you there, of course. Tuning to your intuition will speed your Elevator towards what you want. If you are truly listening you will tune in to when you need to speak to someone or take action, even if it makes no sense at the time.

You’ve seen other people move up to the 11th floor and they will be quick to sell you an expensive training course on how they did it. Your Elevator may take you there a totally different way though, so keeping your heart open to your intuition will always prompt you towards the Path of Least Resistance.

If you find you are holding yourself back in life and career, get the support you need with Personal Development Coach Kitegirl Annabelle Drumm. Available face to face in Sydney Australia or via Skype/Facetime/Phone internationally. Click here to make an enquiry.

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